a quick note
Nothing is easy right now, and everything you're feeling is valid. It sucks having the biggest party you've ever planned being thrown off completely by something you couldn't have seen coming. It's okay to be angry, frustrated, numb, unsure. It's okay to feel all the things.
As I started to gather resources for my couples, I decided that these resources were best shared with everybody - so I gathered them into one single page here when you can flip through and see ideas, mindset refreshers, next steps to take, and more.
Know that here at The Autumn Dog it is my biggest hope that this summer will continue as planned - but our biggest goal is to keep everybody's grandmothers safe.
If you need a place to sit for a while, a place to cry a bit or laugh or have a virtual coffee, my online door is always open. We're in this together.
are you a couple who lost their wedding photographer due to a postponement and schedule issue?
Finding vendors the first time was hard enough, let alone having to do it again. We're here to work with you and whatever situation you're in. Reach out and we can talk about your new date, crazy finances right now, and what would help make you feel at ease.
My date is in September, at what point should I postpone?
I recommend checking in on what your state's current suggested guidelines for gathering are - while it's true that the guidelines have been pushed back multiple times, I don't want you to push your wedding unless it's absolutely necessary.
Should we elope or cancel or postpone? I don't know what to do.
This is such a touch and go situation to be in, there are so many couples out there who just want to be married and done! Some couples have chosen to elope on what would have been their original date, and then celebrate with family and friends afterward. If you choose to do this, make sure you don't have any stay-home orders in your state on the date you do it, since photography isn't an essential service and it may be illegal for your photographer to be there.
What if we're getting married later on this year, like December? Should we postpone?
While it's difficult to know exactly how long this is going to last, it's important to remember that at some point, it will end. If there's still a few months before your event, there's a good chance that the recommendation for gatherings is going to change, and I would say to keep an eye on it and make a decision closer to your event.
People keep leaving their homes and it's frustrating. Advice on how to stay calm?
I know it can be really maddening to see people ignoring CDC recommendations or worse, state-wide sanctions. The important thing to remember is that following the rules yourself is not only keeping others safe, but yourself as well. Those wild hoarders at Walmart will influence you less if you're not there to see them.
It's official: we're postponing. How do we choose a new date?
It's important to work hand-in-hand with your vendors to find a date that works for the most of them, since you likely wouldn't see any refunds if they're unavailable. Your best chances are going to be rescheduling to a NON-Saturday date (like a Friday, Sunday, or even Monday). I recommend trying to keep the event within the same year, in a less busy month like November or December.
If you're a client of mine, I have minute-to-minute updated schedule above where you can view available or unavailable dates.
How do we start telling people?
If you have a wedding website through The Knot or Zola, that's a great place to start. Otherwise, texts, emails, messages are all acceptable forms. Nobody is going to criticize you for having to share the news digitally.
What's The Autumn Dog's cancellation policy?
If you hired me to photograph your event this year and you're nervous about having to move it, take a deep breath. We're on a team here, and we're going to make this work.
Still feeling a little lost?
If you have an unanswered question or you just need somebody to talk to, you can reach out here. I want to help you through whatever you feel isn't clear right now, even if that means you have to complain about being home or not getting the wedding you dreamed of.
We're in this together.