Often times the biggest thing missing from wedding days is peace. A sense of calmness. Wedding days can become such a stressful coordination of things that people forget the bigger picture of the day. So what are some things you can do to combat that?
1. Choose an intentional bridal party - or none at all
This is an area that a lot of people struggle with initially when it comes to their wedding. They feel that they have so many friends and family who love them, they can't imagine having to choose between them for a bridal party. And while this is a dilemma - it's a good dilemma.
Your bridal party is there, by your side, the entire day. Literally, the whole day. They usually even sit next to you at dinner. So you need to be sure you're intentional with who you choose to join you - because if they are chaos, that is what they will bring.
Choose a team that's dependable, and have calming voices of reason. A team that's usually prepared, and can take care of themselves. Often times one of the biggest stresses on a wedding day is a lost groomsman or bridesmaid, and this can throw the whole both the whole timeline off track and the entire vibe of the day. Make sure the team you choose can manage themselves - because it's not your job to do so.
Because when it comes down to it, that's what your bridal party is - a team. And if you feel like your favorite people may cause more chaos than good, consider having them help you get ready - but attend the wedding with the guests.
2. Delegate, everything.
There are very few things on your wedding day that you should actually be doing. The more you put on your own plate, the more stressed out you'll be. I see so many couples who spend all of their energy planning their way down to the last detail - and then have to execute it all themselves, only to burn out. Their day becomes such a blur that when they come to their image reveal, they tell me they barely remember parts of their wedding day. They'll be watching their reveal and they'll laugh and cry over things they don't remember happening - and that's not fair to them. Or you.
So hire a coordinator just for the day, or even a reliable team of family. Don't put everything on yourself.
3. Don't do things because you have to - do them because you want to.
Does the idea of feeding your future spouse cake gross you out. Then don't do it. Seriously.
There should be nothing that you do on your wedding day that doesn't spark joy for you (Marie Kondo, I'm looking at you). There are so many "traditions" that you could remove from your wedding simply because you don't understand why you're doing them or you have no desire to.
Do you have complicated parent relationships? Skip the parent dances - if you feel awkward, the photos will look awkward.
4. Schedule quiet time/ empty room time.
You will literally be surrounded by people all day at all hours. Add an extra 20/30 minutes here and there to just sneak away and be alone - whether just with you, or with your new spouse. This little bit of time may be just enough to recharge and to jump back into greeting your reception guests: allowing your energy to deplete helps nobody, so leave time for self-care on your day.
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