Offbeat First Dance: 10 Emo Song Picks + Advice


So here's the thing: first dances can be very standard and fun and beautiful, or they can be an actual spectacular show. And no matter which one you choose, there are a lot of variables that change how the dance is photographed.

But maybe if you want to do something a little different, a little unique, it can be hard to find ideas for songs that aren't the top 40 of the current year or a song that has meaning to you.

I tapped into my emo music archives, and pulled together a list of 3 slow and 7 fast songs that might just meet the mark for something a little different.

If you want a sweet song, or already have one picked out, there's a few tips I can give you to make sure the dance itself looks and feels energetic:

1. Waltz, not Prom

When it comes to your form for the first dance, always stand waltz-style versus prom. Having a more open form will make for more energetic images, and it's far more flattering to your body than the arms straight around the neck. Here's an awesome demo that shows you how to structure your form!

2. Don't be afraid to laugh or sing

You are meant to have fun while doing this! Don't be afraid to sing along to each other, to talk, to truly enjoy this moment.

3. Ultimately, be yourselves and have fun

I've seen first dances that slowly sway in the same spot for 4 minutes, and I've seen dances that were choreographed down to the minute with a dip at the end. I've seen dances that started slow and were interrupted by a fun dance, I've seen ones that turned into dance-offs. Whatever it is you choose to do, look at it as less of a performance for your guests, and more of a few minutes to just be with your person and do what you'd do in your kitchen.

Emo song recommendations for a slowly choreographed first dance:

Hold On (The Break) // Walk off the Earth

I'm Gonna Be (500 Miles) // Sleeping at Last

Like Real People Do // Hozier

Emo song recommendations for a fast/intense choreographed dance:

Wildfire // Seafret

Give Me Love // Ed Sheeran

Brand New // Ben Rector

Your Guardian Angel // Red Jumpsuit Apparatus

Sugar, We're Goin' Down (Fall Out Boy) // Vitamin String Quartet

You Had Me at Hello // A Day to Remember

This is Gospel (Piano Version) // Panic! at the Disco

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